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Dec 28 2010

The Essential Zen Habits of 2010

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Post written by Leo Babauta.

I am overjoyed.

Zen Habits has just finished its 4th year of existence and every year has been better than the last. This year has been no exception.

How great a year has it been? Zen Habits grew from 150,000 subscribers to well over 200,000 and topped TIME magazine’s Top 25 blogs for 2010 (after also making it in 2009).

But the joy has gone beyond numbers — for me both professionally and personally:

  • I finished and self-published my new book focus and it has done exceedingly well.
  • I moved my family from Guam to San Francisco and have been loving it here in this beautiful city.
  • We gave up our automobile completely for the first time and truly love the car-free life.
  • I lost more weight at the beginning of the year and am fitter slimmer and healthier than ever. By far.
  • I completely eliminated ads here on Zen Habits and rely entirely on my lovely readers and on selling my own stuff.
  • I also removed photos from Zen Habits. Some of you have expressed regret that the photos are gone and I understand this feeling. But it was an important change for me: it put the focus on the content and not on a superficial image. I enjoy posting more now that I don’t have to choose some image that’s only slightly related to the content.
  • My other blog mnmlist.com has grown to 11,000 readers and (quietly) celebrated its one-year anniversary in September. More importantly: it has helped the minimalist movement grow by leaps and bounds this year.

The Essential Posts of 2010

Each year I choose the top posts from Zen Habits for the year but this year I decided to let you guys do the choosing. I don’t keep track of stats anymore so I don’t know which posts you guys liked best. It was interesting to see the results.

Here are the Top 20 posts as chosen by all of you:

  1. you’re already perfect
  2. the lost art of solitude
  3. The Case Against Christmas Presents
  4. Simplify, and Savor Life
  5. the best goal is no goal
  6. Why I don’t care about success
  7. the zen of doing
  8. the elements of living lightly
  9. Life’s missing white space
  10. The No. 1 Habit of Highly Creative People
  11. A simplified morning routine
  12. a brief guide to life
  13. Kill Your To-Do List
  14. How Not to Hurry
  15. kindfully + mindfully
  16. achieving, without goals
  17. How to Be a Positive Person, in Under 300 Words
  18. The Little Book of Procrastination Remedies
  19. the tao of productivity
  20. Get Inspired

A few other posts I’d recommend:

  1. the barefoot philosophy
  2. the insidious perfidiousness of doubts, overcome
  3. lessons from a car-free life
  4. The Little Guide to Inspiration

And more

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Dec 23 2010

Vote for your favorite Zen Habits posts of 2010

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Post written by Leo Babauta.

It’s that time of year when we look back and reflect. I usually pick my top posts of the year to share with those who missed them, but this year I thought I’d let you guys pick.

I no longer keep stats on Zen Habits so I don’t know which posts have been the most popular. So you guys have to judge — on quality, not popularity.

Vote for up to 10 posts in the poll below (you can choose fewer than 10 if you like). Deadline for voting is 11 am Pacific on Dec. 27, 2010.

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Dec 22 2010

Top 10 Resolutions To Set For The New Year

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style="text-align: left;">Resolution, n – A commitment that an individual makes that brings positive benefits to his/her life

In just a week’s time, we’ll be stepping into 2011. Are you ready to rock 2011 ahead?

I love the new year, because it’s the time when we start everything on a fresh note. It’s when we set new resolutions, positive intentions of what we want to accomplish for the year. In today’s post, I’m going to share top 10 resolutions to set for the new year. These 10 resolutions cover important areas, and when accomplished, will bring about great benefits to your life.

  1. Spend more time with family. How many of us often prioritize work over family? Our family is the closest kin we have in the world, so spend more time with them. Let go of work for just an hour a day, and swap that with some quality family time instead. Check with your family members how they are doing at work, in school, and in their relationships.
  2. Get Fit / Exercise more. Do you know that href="http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/fastats/overwt.htm" target="_blank">over 60% of Americans are overweight or obese? A healthy body is the key to a healthy life. Very few of us exercise as frequently as we would like. When things get busy at work, our gym sessions are usually the first to go. Unfortunately, that also means an increasing waistline and wider hips as the years go by. I’m planning a 21-day healthy living challenge on my blog with the start of 2011, where I’ll be exercising regularly and eating healthily (resolution #3) for 21 days straight. Since it takes 21 days to make or break a habit, these 21 days will help to set the positive habits in place for the year and beyond.
  3. Eat healthily. The modern lifestyle has become one that’s filled with fast food and junk food. Time to take these out and eat some healthy food. Recently I’ve taken a huge liking for salad bars. They’re amazingly filling, and extremely refreshing change.
  4. Connect with friends. Make it a point to meet up with friends regularly. Remember at the end of the day, our relationships are what give us the biggest fulfillment in life. Go take your phone book and call up your good friends from the past. Or simply use Facebook and search for them. Arrange to meet-up and catch up over a cup of coffee. I recently met my good friend over dinner and it was great meeting her after a long time. We made the commitment to meet up at least once every month so we wouldn’t lose touch.
  5. Learn something new. Learning never stops. Life is our school, and there are things to learn everywhere we go. Go learn a new language, take a new course, read new books, learn a sport, and more. Check out these  href="http://www.lifehack.org/articles/lifestyle/42-practical-ways-to-improve-yourself.html">42 helpful tips on how to improve yourself.
  6. Meet new people. A new year is a great time to forge new friendships, while maintaining old ones of course. We can never have too many friends. Get out there and meet new people! Venture out of your social groups. Meet people whose work inspire you. Network with the top people in your field. Get to know your friends’ friends.
  7. Meditate. If there’s only one habit you’re going to pick to cultivate, I’ll recommend you pick meditation. Meditation calms your mind and quietens your soul. It’s where you connect with your subconsciousness and unleash that idea genius in you. I’ve gotten some very interesting ideas from my meditations. If you’re new to meditation, it’s very easy to get started. Read: href="http://celestinechua.com/blog/how-to-meditate-in-5-simple-steps/">How To Meditate in 5 Simple Steps.
  8. Do more kind deeds. I think there’s never an end to how much we can help others. The more we give, the happier we’ll be. I’ve dedicated my life to helping others grow, and every day I get more satisfaction from my work than the day before.
  9. Get rid of clutter. New year is the perfect time to declutter your environment. Do a spring cleaning of your home, your wardrobe, your bedroom, your storeroom and your work desk. You’ll find that removing clutter has a therapeutic effect: As you clear the clutter, you’re inviting new things to enter your life.
  10. Stop procrastinating. How much time have you wasted in your life procrastinating? Honestly, life’s too short to be procrastinating it away. Start 2011 on a high note – it’s time to cut off all the bad procrastination habits and do everything you’ve been putting off. If you need some help, check out: href="http://www.lifehack.org/articles/lifehack/11-practical-ways-to-stop-procrastination.html">11 Practical Ways To Stop Procrastination

Which of the resolutions above are you going to set for 2011? Share with everyone in the comments below!

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Dec 21 2010

How to find opportunity

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Post written by Leo Babauta.

When we are faced with a crisis or struggle we often despair.

But it’s in this struggle that the best opportunities emerge. If we’re keeping our eyes open.

A crisis is an opportunity to change grow learn reflect and become better. It’s where we discover who we are and how we can find a new way we couldn’t have imagined before the crisis presented itself. It allows us to practice patience and acceptance and find renewed hope — which is the most beautiful thing.

When I’ve lost my job it was an opportunity for reinvention and to strike out on my own.

When I’ve lost a family member to the unrelenting grip of death it was an opportunity to reflect on that loved one’s wonderful life and for our family to come together in a way never possible before.

When I failed at work I learned to improve and grow better.

When I injured myself I learned patience and new ways to be healthy.

When my children throw tantrums they are teaching me more patience and the power of raw emotions and the wonder of childhood and what happens when you lose perspective.

When my wife and I had arguments it was an opportunity to learn more about each other and grow closer and become better at finding common ground.

When I moved and missed my family on Guam terribly it was an opportunity to learn introspection and self-sufficiency and grow closer to family here in the States.

When I daily face the terror of the void staring at me face to face it is my chance to push back and assert my will and imprint my soul upon this malleable world.

And that my friends is beauty. It is the finding of renewed hope and growth when all else seems bleak and lost.

In the struggle is the possible if we dare to look.

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Dec 20 2010

When In Doubt Simplify

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Post written by Leo Babauta.

It’s the time of year when everyone is in a crazy rush: to shop to decorate to get ingredients to go to parties to travel to get last-minute work done to go to the kids’ Christmas pageants to go caroling to get those to-dos done.

There is a single answer to just about all your problems — Christmas or otherwise:

Simplify.

It’s the answer to your time-management problems: instead of trying to figure out how to manage your schedule try simplifying it. Do less. Say no to projects and meetings. Cut back on commitments. Have less on your schedule and you’ll eliminate the problem of trying to manage it all. You’ll also have less stress and love life more.

It’s the answer to your financial problems: instead of trying to manage all your bills and debts try simplifying. Spend less. Shop less. Do without for a bit. Cut back on your bills. Have fewer credit accounts. Eliminate debt and have less stress.

It’s also the answer to your storage problems: instead of trying to find more storage for all your stuff try simplifying. Reduce clutter. Having less stuff requires less storage (even a smaller home) and is less stressful. You’ll also save lots of money in storage and maintenance.

Want to lose weight? Simplify your diet. Want to change a habit? Simplify the process: do just one habit at a time.

Having trouble getting things done? Eliminate distractions and find focus.

Want to get out of the craziness of Christmas shopping? Do less of it.

Simplicity isn’t always easy. It requires the courage to be different. To say no. To make difficult decisions. To question the way we’ve always done things.

But the result is lovely: simplicity means more space. More quiet and peace. More focus and less craziness. Less stress. A happier healthier life. That’s worth the effort.

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Dec 20 2010

12 Free holiday gifts they’ll never forget

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It’s the holiday season – the time of year we imagine as full of so many possibilities for joy and gift giving. All too often, though, the holidays aren’t a wonderful experience. When families come together, or there’s no family and friends to be with, the holidays can become a time of anxiety and dread. It’s easy, if you’re envisioning a less than desirable experience ahead of you, to sink into sadness at the prospect of dealing with a difficult situation that’s out of your control.

One alternative any of us can pursue, whether the holidays fill us full of excitement or angst, is to focus on being a joyful, generous giver!

Don’t worry though; what follows isn’t a prescription for spending more money!

Instead, none of these twelve holiday gift ideas cost any money at all. All they cost is the commitment and the effort to do something special that will be remembered years longer than a cheapo gift grabbed from a holiday present ideas end cap at a big box retailer.

This holiday, how about…..?

  • Encouraging someone to embrace greater aspirations than they are pursuing.
  • Protecting someone’s well-being by helping them, however you can.
  • Complimenting another for a talent they don’t even realize they possess.
  • Complementing a friend by sharing your talents to offset one of their weaknesses.
  • Erasing a debt someone owes you.
  • Repairing a relationship which has been strained for too long.
  • Becoming a peaceful, calming influence in an emotionally charged situation.
  • Discovering what’s really important in the life of someone close to you.
  • Tackling a chore or to-do that someone important to you is struggling to accomplish.
  • Refreshing the energy you have to share with others by unplugging from your self-imposed responsibilities this holiday season.
  • Reading something positive and motivating you wouldn’t typically read in your daily routine.
  • Listing all the blessings you’ve received this year and sharing them with others.

You certainly don’t have to do all of these, but trying even one or two will make the holidays more fulfilling for yourself and everyone around you!


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Dec 17 2010

Lessons from Less

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Editor’s note: This is a guest post from Courtney Carver of Be More with Less.

When I was 16, I wanted more. When I was 24, I wanted even more than that. So, I worked harder, earned more, spent more, to have more, only to owe more. I was exhausted at the end of the day and tired when I woke up most mornings. I ate on the fly, fell behind, ran late and could never catch up. Sound familiar?

I thought everything I was doing was for a better life. I thought what I was doing was normal and right. I had become so used to bills in the mailbox, and feeling rundown, that I didn’t know anything was wrong. So, how did I go from wanting more, more, more to craving less? I would love to tell you that I woke up one morning a changed person, but that’s not the way it went down. Even though I had begun to make small changes, I needed a wake up call … and it had to be really loud.

On July, 7th 2006 I was diagnosed with relapsing remitting Multiple Sclerosis. That was my wake up call, and to say it was loud is an understatement. The diagnosis was nothing short of traumatic. I didn’t have enough information to take action. I only knew enough to be really scared. I had so many questions. Could I still ski with my family? Would I be able to help my daughter with homework? Would I even be walking in a year?

No one had the answers to those overwhelming questions, so I had to focus on what was most important: my health and my family. Nothing else mattered. If I had moved forward with these big questions and fearful thinking, my daughter and husband would have been so worried. I realized that if I started thinking differently, so would they. My questions went from, “What is this disease going to do to my body and mind?” to “How am I going to reverse MS?”

The answer to my question was change. Small shifts and big change were necessary to become the best possible version of myself. When I started making changes in my life, I didn’t know that they would lead to minimalism, but they did. In fact, while the changes I made were fighting MS, they were also redefining my whole life. The changes I made are not all essential in the life of a minimalist, but they are all essential to my minimalist lifestyle.

What I did to change my life:

I became a vegetarian. Research shows that MS patients, and people dealing with other autoimmune conditions that eat fewer saturated fats and “inflammatory foods” maintain better health. (I would challenge that this goes for most everyone.) Giving up meat was one of the best ways I could really “do something” about my new diagnosis. I stopped eating meat to achieve better health.

When I started my vegetarian journey, I started reading. I read about raising animals for meat. I read about factory farming. I learned about the impact of our actions on our bodies, animals and the earth. By really opening my eyes and heart to how meat was put on my plate, I lost my appetite for it. I was motivated by health and changed with compassion.

I fell in love with yoga. Practicing Yoga gives me strength, flexibility, focus, peace of mind and freedom from fear. I want to keep my body strong, and my mind calm and focused so I can effectively fight this disease and take care of my family. While I am in search of less, I want to be more sensitive and loving, more adaptive and more resilient. Yoga gives me that, too.

I got rid of my stuff. While I always felt compelled to put something on an empty surface, I have come to love an empty space. It takes living without it to realize how clutter affects your life and takes away from your freedom and creativity. I am reminded of that every time I walk into my kitchen and instead of seeing a cluttered counter, I see sunlight streaming in from the kitchen window. I am still letting go of my stuff and feel lighter everyday.

I decided to live without debt. You may not think that your bank account can affect your health, but considering money can cause great stress, and stress can make you sick, it only makes sense that poor money management equals poor health. My husband and I made the decision to be debt free, and paid off our last debt this summer except for our house. What will we do with our money now that we don’t have any monthly payments? Whatever we want.

I hung up the phone. I do not use my phone when I’m driving anymore. I don’t text at red lights or make calls on the back roads. I can remember too many times where I would arrive at a destination and not remember how I got there because I was so involved in a phone call. Admitting that I had essentially been risking my life and the lives of other drivers wasn’t easy, but it was necessary to make the change and the commitment to be phone free in the car.

Another benefit is that now, when I pick my daughter up from school, she has my full attention. She doesn’t have to compete with business or other phone fueled distractions. I am there for her.

I redefined better. As I mentioned before, all of my bad habits came from wanting something better, something more. In the changes I’ve made, I have redefined what better means to me and my family. The health and happiness of my marriage and family comes before everything else. My husband and I have decided that “more” isn’t the answer for us.

Now at 41, forever changed, and virtually symptom free, I am becoming me. I know I haven’t figured it all out but am content. I don’t make as much as I used to. I didn’t take a big vacation this year or make any big purchases, but there is no doubt that I am happier. Less speaks to me. Less lets me love more deeply and less lets me really be me.

My wake up calls have become more subtle, but because I have the time and space to pay attention, I hear them loud and clear. When I first started to practice doing less and being more, I discovered Zen Habits. It was another wake up call, but it sounded like a whisper, “You can do this. You can change.” It is not a coincidence that Leo Babauta’s story of change changed me. I was ready to listen, ready to change.

The biggest lesson I’ve learned is that less is enough. Of course, I am still learning, still changing and still a work in progress, but now it is my turn to inspire change with my story.

Read more from Courtney at her blog, Be More with Less, or follow her on twitter.

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Dec 14 2010

The 4-Hour Body: The Tim Ferriss Interview on Zen Habits

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Post written by Leo Babauta.

Tim Ferriss’ new book The 4-Hour Body is now out and I’ve been reading it for a week now. It’s utterly fascinating.

Tim as you know is the author of The 4-Hour Workweek, a huge best-selling book, and his new book looks to be just as successful.

I had the pleasure of talking with Tim this week about his book. It was a great conversation — full of interesting and useful stuff. My apologies for the quality of the video.



Some highlights:

  • Why The 4-Hour Body is the book he always wanted to write [2:40].
  • Why he made himself a guinea pig for crazy experiments [2:59].
  • Whether or not I’ll have a Tim Ferriss body if I replicate his experiments [7:20].
  • The ins and outs of self-experimentation [8:20].
  • The most extreme experiments he conducted on himself [13:24].
  • Tim’s sex experiments and how he found willing subjects (including an effective pick-up line) [16:56].
  • The changes he recommends starting with, for those looking to lose fat and gain muscle [22:20].
  • The effectiveness of a “before” photo in losing weight [28:25].
  • Whether (and how) his methods can work for vegetarians and vegans [29:50].
  • Leo’s hopes of becoming a testosterone sex machine [32:30].
  • Why this book is by far the most important thing Tim has done [34:30].

It was a fun conversation, and again, Tim’s new book is a fascinating read.

As a bonus for you guys, Tim has given me a copy of The Slow-Carb Cookbook: Volume 1 (compressed zip file).

Check the book out on Amazon (affiliate link): The 4-Hour Body.


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Dec 11 2010

GiftGaff relaunches social gift registry in time for holiday sanity

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Why should we only use href="http://giftgaff.com">registries for weddings and baby showers? What about all the other holidays with presents flying ’round that always seem to end with Uncle Bobby getting 15 blue ties with little goldfish on them? href="http://giftgaff.com/">GiftGaff has relaunched its holiday registry for everything from Christmas to made-up birthdays.

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Add the new Macbook Air to your “Wishful Techie” wishlist, snoop on Jordie’s wishlist to see what not to wear, then raise your hand to buy Rosa the book she placed on her wishlist without her finding out who the present is from ahead of time.

No repeat presents. No stupid presents. No embarrassment because you didn’t even snoop on your relatives’ Facebook pages to see what they might like before going shopping. Just great gifts, organized.

Launched in 1997, after founder Erica Coffin’s grandmother received 7 copies of the same best seller for Christmas, href="http://giftgaff.com">Giftgaff.com not only tracks who has purchased gifts for whom, preventing duplicate giving, but also keeps purchased gifts a secret from the recipient, preserving the surprise.

You can also create multiple wishlists with different audiences, so in addition to their own holiday or birthday wishlist, moms can create Christmas and birthday lists for babies, or for any other occasion – weddings, retirement parties, or even office Secret Santas.

A pun on the Scottish word giff-gaff meaning “mutual giving, receiving”, href="http://giftgaff.com">GiftGaff.com is the first gifting tool to encourage users to create their own private wishlist communities, so that only the friends and family you choose share your wishlist(s). Because you know and trust the source, family and friends can to suggest gifts for each other.

href="http://giftgaff.com">Check out GiftGaff (it’s Free) and let us know if you like it as well!

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Dec 08 2010

Tied Up in Knots? The Minimalist’s Guide to Inner Peace

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‘Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.’ ~Victor Frankl

Editor’s note: This is a guest post from Gail Brenner, Ph.D. of A Flourishing Life.

Are you ready to be a warrior for inner peace? Doing less and organizing more simplifies for sure. But until you deal with the ways you get knotted up inside, your life will be complicated, and the glory of inner peace will elude you.

Inner peace is revealed when the inner war ends. We stop looking outside ourselves for solutions to our problems and, instead, turn our attention inward to make peace with our own experience. This simple movement of attention is revolutionary. It heals, calms, and clarifies like nothing else.

From Darkness to Light

We are experts at denying our experience. Take any habit that doesn’t serve you – compulsively shopping or staying busy, self-judgment, jealousy. If you trace it back to its root, you will find an expectation or feeling you have been avoiding.

These hidden aspects of ourselves thrive when we ignore them, leaving fear, desire, and lack to unconsciously drive our behavior. Once they are illuminated by becoming aware, we see how they operate, and we can make a different choice. No more conflict. No more confusion. Finally, peace.

Unearthing our inner experiences is like treasure hunting. Each one is a breadcrumb leading us out of the wilderness of discontent and into the light of a simple, conscious, lovely way of being. Suffering ends and freedom begins, leaving us available to happiness, wonder, enjoyment, and creativity.

The How-To

Exploring your triggers takes courage and openness. Prepare yourself for the journey by being willing:

  • To be honest
  • To feel pain but not wallow in it
  • To let go of the old and change
  • To contemplate a new kind of inner life not beset by distress and disturbance
  • To be happy and peaceful

Now, begin to explore. Showing up as a loving presence to yourself is one of the most sane and compassionate things you could ever do.

  1. When you are triggered, rather than playing it out in the usual way, stop and breathe.
  2. Simply notice the thought patterns, feelings, and bodily sensations that are present. Don’t freak out – just be curious. What are you thinking? What is the energy behind the thoughts? What feelings and physical sensations are present? These questions allow you to become familiar with how your habits work so they no longer control you.
  3. Find the most loving place inside you – the soft spot that melts when you encounter puppies, babies, or those most dear to you. Pour this love into the tension and painful feelings. This is the healing balm that untangles the knot.
  4. Rinse and repeat every time you are struggling.
  5. Move forward in a way that supports your clarity, happiness, and well being.

Example #1: Holding a Grudge

Say that you have been carrying around a grudge for a decade or two. To keep this grudge alive, you must be telling yourself a story about what should and shouldn’t have happened. You feel churned up inside, and your reaction is activated every time you face a person or situation that triggers the memories. This is no way to live.

Your thoughts about what happened are keeping you stuck. Release yourself by letting go of the story and feeling right into the pain. Break it down into its elements – thoughts and physical sensations. This is the experience that’s been plaguing you all along. Love those tender feelings, then go forth with fresh eyes.

This process doesn’t condone what happened, and it has nothing to do with the other person. It’s a choice you make for your peace and happiness.

Example #2: Relationship Problems

How many of us blame the other person for struggles in our relationships? We get caught in the trap of “if only” – if only the other would change, then I will feel more peaceful. This mindset will never solve the problem because you are making your peace dependent on something you can’t control – what other people say and do.

If your relationships bring you stress, make peace with your own reactions. Turn your attention inward to lovingly meet the frustration, disappointment, or fear that is triggered in you. Even though you may not like what you realize, when you accept things as they are, you are at peace. And seeing your role in the problem unlocks the possibility of experimenting with new and compassionate solutions.

Example #3: Habits and Addictions

Maybe you engage in a compulsive pattern that involves your actions, thoughts, or feelings. All challenging habits mask an unexplored emotion, usually fear or sadness.

Do you want to bring ease to your inner world? Stop, breathe, and move your kind attention into the feeling you’ve been avoiding. Love it every time it arises. Then follow Leo’s advice on changing habits, and you are well on your way to freeing yourself.

Can you see the value of becoming aware? Any inner knot can be untangled when you pay attention to it. Start with whatever is troubling you right now, and know that every moment of awareness simplifies.

The process of becoming aware is not a panacea that instantly cures all your ills. But you will notice some changes – space, ease, and, a depth of peace you never knew was possible.

Gail Brenner, Ph.D. is a psychologist who blogs at A Flourishing Life. Stay in touch by subscribing to her feed.

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